Archive for November, 2009

Benefits of Music Exposure in Children

Monday, November 23rd, 2009

Making Music  

Students at The Goddard School® Ballantyne located in Charlotte, NC, benefit from early exposure to music, provided for children Infant to Pre-Kindergarten.

 The goal of the Music Preludes program is to enrich children’s cognitive, social and physical development through learning experiences focused on the achievement of music literacy and the stimulation of self-expression, creativity and exploration.

 Studies have shown that learning to process music in a meaningful way enhances the development of cognitive capacities for math, reading and science.

  • Making Music provides CDs to complement the Music Preludes Program.
  • Recognizing notes and rhythm patterns develops an awareness of dynamics and tempo and enables children to begin to read music.

To learn more about The Goddard School click here.

Fostering healthy Grandparent relationships

Friday, November 20th, 2009

Grandparents

by Kyle D. Pruett, M.D

 Love and time…need we say more?  How about wise historian, mentor, confidant, elder, counselor, spiritual guide, financier, playmate or parental antidote?  These are all roles that grandparents play in the lives of their grandchildren.  And grandparents are a growing force!  The number and percentage of the population that grandparents account for has grown dramatically in the last 15 years – from 58 million to 78 million.  

Here are a few ways that you can help foster a healthy relationship between your parents and your children:

 When planning a visit, talk about how you can help and what you should bring to help things go smoothly.  Discuss recent routines and help your parents childproof their house – more to keep your child safe than to protect the crystal. This communication
provokes less defensiveness in grandparents, and helps them be a part of the solution from the start.

  • Relax some rules, but don’t compromise your core values. For instance, sweets seem to be a generational prerogative, but television monitoring should continue according to your child’s habits and your beliefs.
  • Children and grandparents are so close because they share something in common – you!  They can share stories, secrets, etc. that allow children the experience of close relationships with a loving family member who is not wholly responsible for their future happiness, homework or well being.
  • Spoiling is not a helpful approach to grandparenting and most of them know it.  Positive expectant attention is best.  Interestingly, today’s grandparents are so busy, I think this is less of a problem these days.
  • Enjoy the relationship your children are developing with your parents. 

 When misunderstandings or problems occur (and they are bound to), it’s better to figure out a way to talk about them than to avoid each other. That is too steep a price for your children. We all want this relationship to work because the benefits are forever.

 Kyle D. Pruett, M.D. is an advisor for The Goddard School®.  Dr. Pruett is an authority on child development who has been practicing child and family psychiatry for over twenty-five years.  He is a clinical professor of child psychiatry at Yale University’s Child Study Center.

To learn more about The Goddard School click here.

Child Transitions

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009

Transitions

by Kyle D. Pruett, M.D

 For all their enormous passion to explore, invent and challenge the world order, children are basically a pretty conservative crowd. They love their creature comforts: dog-eared books, macaroni, and juice. This is why life’s transitions are more an annoyance than a welcome change to children. For many toddlers, moving furniture around in their room is all it takes to alter their sleep for a few weeks.  And their move from crib to bed takes coordination and patience worthy of a corporate merger. Some of life’s inevitable transitions include moving and travel: 

Moving

A move is an adult-imposed and radical change in a child’s world order and they rarely embrace it. Kids lose familiarity, meaningful stuff and places, and competence in doing the familiar in the usual places with ease and predictability.

 Prepare far ahead, and have a goodbye party.

  • Accept grumpy resistance and regression – it’s not their idea, they’re entitled to complain.
  • Keep familiar treasures with you and move their room in first.
  • Stay in touch with your old neighborhood if your child is old enough to have established connections.

 Travel

Travel is more necessary than ever for job security. Prepare to hate it – just about everyone does, including the kids. How many of us have learned to deal with a cold shoulder (temporarily) upon our safe return?

 Answer the ‘why’ you have to go as simply as possible and don’t minimize the time away to ‘ease’ your absence. It strains trust all around.

  • Mark the days on a calendar for preschoolers and show them your destination on a map.
  • Do NOT sneak out – it robs children the chance to cope or cry with your help.
  • Make a ritual of phone calls, even when children have little to say. Remember: you left them and it is your responsibility to hold the relationship together.

 Try your best not to travel around special family events such as holidays, birthdays and important school events.  And when you return home, be home – stay off the phone or computer, and get down on the floor with your kids and stay there till they get up and leave you. They will eventually understand why you travel. But for now, it’s up to you to prove that you’ll always come home.

 Kyle D. Pruett, M.D. is an advisor for The Goddard School®.  Dr. Pruett is an authority on child development who has been practicing child and family psychiatry for over twenty-five years.  He is a clinical professor of child psychiatry at Yale University’s Child Study Center. 

To learn more about The Goddard School click here.

Fall Leaves Activity

Friday, November 13th, 2009

Fall Leaves

 

The Goddard School® located in Charlotte, NC, recommends trying new activities with your child!

 

Materials:

Contact paper (clear)

Colored tissue paper

Permanent marker

Double-sided tape

Scissors

Ruler 

*Children should have adult supervision throughout this activity.

 

How To:

  1. Cut two pieces of contact paper into 5” X 5” squares.
  2. Place double-sided tape on the dull side of one square and secure the square to a table or flat surface.
  3. Peel off the contact paper backing so the sticky side faces up.
  4. Cut or tear small pieces of different colored tissue paper and place them on the sticky side of the contact paper square until completely covered.
  5. Place the second square on top of the first square (sticky side down) so the tissue paper is sealed between the two contact paper squares.
  6. Trace a leaf shape onto the contact paper squares.
  7. Cut out the shape to make a colorful fall leaf.
  8. Use tape to adhere the leaf to a window where the sun will shine through it!

To learn more about The Goddard School click ‘here’.

Picky Eaters

Thursday, November 12th, 2009

PICKY EATER STRATEGY

While we all understand the importance of good nutrition during early childhood, a few of us are blessed with extraordinarily picky eaters. What’s a parent to do?

 Children who attend preschool are better served when their parents pack their lunches. Why?  Because the process of choosing, packing and providing healthy meal choices is in the hands of parents; not a caterer or packaged meal plan provider. This is especially important if your child is a picky eater.

 The Strategy:

  • Let your child be a part of a healthy food conversation.  Discuss the week’s menus and the specific ingredients.  Read cookbooks and magazines – or just look at the interesting pictures.
  • Engage your child while at the food store and give them choices. For example, “Let’s pick a fruit to pack in your lunches.  Would you like to bring strawberries or apples?”
  • Add a little sous chef to your dinner preparations. Ask your children to bring two lemons to you or put them in charge of stirring cold items. This may delay dinner, but consider the reward – quality time!
  • It is normal for toddlers and young children to be picky eaters. They may refuse food based on its texture or color – do not fret, keep trying!

 Parent Tips:

  • Offer new foods on multiple occasions. Many children need to try a new food up to a dozen times before they like it.
  • Set a good example and try new foods yourself.
  • Encourage healthy food portions. Never insist that children “clean their plates.” Rewarding a clean plate may lead to a distorted idea of food, such as ignoring feeling full or eating for a reward.
  • Make healthy snacks available. Make fruits or veggies convenient to your child.
  • Encourage your children to serve and feed themselves. Independence boosts self-esteem which leads to better food choices.
  • Make ‘dining out’ a special occasion – even if it’s at the local burger joint. Children can practice manners and food choices in any dining experience.  

Reward children with praise, hugs and kisses. Resist rewarding children’s good behavior with sugary treats.

To learn more about The Goddard School click ‘here’.

Holiday Traveling

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009
Traveling with Your Children

Traveling with the family is fun, but it’s important to be prepared. Here are some tips and advice for parents to consider before they travel with their young ones.

Infant to One Year

  • Plan for an active stretch. A rest stop break or a playground – let them walk or toddle for twenty or so minutes before climbing back in the car.
  • Fun: music, mobiles, bubbles and books.
  • Pre-measure formula into bottles and carry a room temperature bottle of water to mix on the go.
  • Be prepared for a mess – snacks, diapers, spit-up, etc. – small trash bag, wipes, hand sanitizer (for the adults), spare water, tissues, bib and a blanket.
  • Even if you are traveling by plane, a car seat can double as a feeding chair or nap location. Call ahead for a crib to be added to your hotel room.
  • Be prepared and do not overload yourself. If time allows, buy what you can when you get to your destination.

First Steps (12 to 18 months)

  • Many of the Infant travel tips apply here.
  • Use “links” to keep toys within your child’s reach.
  • Even in the cool weather, crack a window for fresh air. Stale air may make your little one grumpy. Remove heavy jackets and shoes for comfort.
  • Fun: Music, books, stuffed animal, play mirror and foam shapes that will “stick” to the car seat. In an airplane – purchase headphones for music and rest it on your child’s shoulders instead of over their ears.
  • Have some active playtime just before leaving and plan for frequent stops. In an airplane, let children walk down the aisle periodically at their own pace.
  • Airports can be a bustling place. This may be the one time you check your luggage at the curb. This way you can focus on your little one’s needs without the hassle of luggage in tow.

Toddler and Get Set (18 to 36 months)

  • Many of the First Steps travel tips apply here.
  • Play window games – count the silos, trucks or red lights.
  • Attach a mirror to the front passenger visor so you can see and interact with your toddler without having to spin around.
  • Buckle up a toy bin right next to the children so they can help themselves – books, links, stuffed animals and puppets.
  • Have your child help you pack a picnic lunch or snack and then serve it to everyone.
  • A blanket can make a quick play space in any lobby, airport, etc.

Preschool to Pre-K (36 months+)

  • “I Spy” a blue car, a white truck and other objects you can see while moving.
  • Laptop desk for drawing with paper and crayons.
  • Car-Ride Checklist – make a picture itinerary of landmarks you will see along the way.
  • Ask your child to keep score – gas prices, mileage or count out toll money.
  • Play “I’m thinking of an animal.” Provide age-appropriate hints to help your child guess a particular animal.
  • If you’re using a hotel babysitter: 1. Check the sitter’s credentials, including criminal and/or child abuse clearances. 2. Check the room and the equipment in the room. 3. Carry your phone and check your phone service when you arrive at your destination.

To learn more about The Goddard School click here.

How Children Learn Through Play

Monday, November 9th, 2009
What Your Child Learns Through Play 

There are a myriad of developmental skills that children learn through play. From their infant to Pre-Kindergarten stages, children are experiencing and learning new things each and every day. With play consuming most of their time, there are different things children learn during every stage of their growth. 

Infant to Six Months: Everything is a baby’s first. For example, the first time a baby opens his eyes in his bassinet, he discovers something new – an animal on his mobile. The next morning, there it is again. Will it be there tomorrow? Yes, and then baby learns to trust that when he opens his eyes he will always see the mobile’s giraffe looking back at him. Babies will engage in play first by responding to sounds, then by following objects and people with their eyes. Your baby will demonstrate his memory by repeating an action that made you laugh yesterday. Once infants can hold a rattle a whole new world opens up – you will watch them turn it over, bang it, shake it and even taste it. Rolling over also widens a baby’s world from what is placed before him to 360 degrees of eye-catching curiosity. The new world is fun. 

Six Months to One Year: Baby is now his own driving force to play. He no longer needs an adult or older sibling to spark his interest. Rolling over and sitting up has created choices and as he discovers how to move from lying to sitting, he is covering ground and taking aim at his own source of interest. Place toys within and outside of your baby’s reach to encourage self-discovery and motion. Your child is brilliant and will look at a familiar object when called by name. Babies not only want to turn objects around, they want to talk to them and use them the way you tell them to use them. See my hands! You say “clap” with a smile on your face and baby wants to clap and smile, too. 

First Steps (12 to 18 months): No longer a baby, a First Stepper “steps” into everything. A First Step child will play with water, smell a flower (which is not as easy as you think) and recognize animals like the ones from the mobile. He will join in the conversation with simple words and phrases and respond to “bye, bye,” with an unsolicited wave. One-year-olds love to demonstrate their knowledge – they will point to anything you name and find body parts, like their ears, when they cannot even see them. They have learned to trust their own experiences with their ears. Your one-year-old will play with you and imitate your actions. Watch your child reflect your love a baby doll with “hugs and kisses” and help you the way you have guided him. 

Toddler (18-30 months): A toddler’s world is all about ME – “Me do it”! This demonstration of independence is an exercise in trusting the child’s own limits. A toddler will speak on a play phone and answer questions such as “Why?” and “Where?” Playing is on his terms – when and how. Toddlers love new experiences, too. They have graduated from ‘turning it over and tasting it’ to doing it right. A toddler will put a puzzle together, hold crayons in his hand, hum and sing as he plays, and join activities without prompting. Give your toddler plenty of opportunities to join in imaginary play – pour from one cup to another and manipulate play dough. 

Get Set (30 to 36 months): Just like the name states, get set for more play. The Get Set child is truly developing an identity. He knows his own name – first and last – and can tell you where his friends are playing. Get Setters know ‘they can do it’ and want to be like adults. They will share and wait turns, communicate in short sentences and demonstrate their personal understanding of the world around them in their play. Get Set children will soak up any information you share with them. They can understand words like “under” and “over” and the description of how a plant grows. Art is no longer about exploring the material itself, but rather what they can do with the material. They will even paint with the opposite side of the paint brush just to see what it will create. Get set for your child to amaze you with his knowledge of good hygiene and specific book choices. A Get Set child can also multi-task now; try singing and doing the motions to the song or have a conversation while he paints. 

Preschool (36 months +): This is the age of expectations. The preschool child’s play looks like going to work. As he mingles among the Interest Centers he is also playing out a role. Preschoolers have a large vocabulary and understand the intonations of language. As they act out a role, they will try on different emotions and see how they fit into their own personality. Preschoolers have begun to connect the spoken word to written language and can orally retell a favorite story. They are interested in cause and effect and can identify their colors, shapes, sizes and weights; and they want to explore what happens when they change them. A preschool child may remain in a particular Interest Center for long periods of time until he has exhausted his curiosity. Don’t forget to stand back because the preschool child also needs his space to move. Watch as he develops rhythm and tempo as both an individual or group learner. Either way, preschoolers are movers and shakers.

 Pre-Kindergarten (48 months +): Complexity is the nature of the Pre-K classroom. Pre-Kindergarteners are complex social beings wanting to play with specific friends and still identifying when they want to do it alone. They can recognize how objects and people are the same and different simultaneously, and they can appreciate those attributes. Playing is beginning to turn into concepts. For instance, all of the exploration at the water table develops into an understanding of water – floating, sinking, absorbing, dissolving, etc. Pre-K children use their four years of play experience to develop an identifiable knowledge – they can match by relationships and verbalize invisible concepts, such as time and calendars. They no longer need to see or hold the toy to play; they can recall previous experiences and use the knowledge. While listening to music they can name the instrument, move to the beat and sing along. In Pre-K, phonemic awareness and the written word are magical – writing words is play.